I don't dislike children at all, but I have zero desire to pull weekend soccer mom duty for someone else's pre-made family, and I get the niggling suspicion that a lot of these guys are simply looking for a way to minimize their duties by putting a third caretaker into the picture.

Call me unabashedly old-fashioned, but I expect my spouse to treat me as a first priority in any relationship or marriage, regardless.

It also seems they are gone once the girl has their baby, leaving a tough road ahead for a young white girl with a mixed race child. Thankfully, I'm not looking for love (not so sure about the other posters).

I guess I'll just have to try my luck with the influx of tourists.

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So I will speak bluntly knowing that the sistas got my back on this one. In a lot of cases, these men are part and parcel of the lifestyle these young women are after, and there are of course the oft-repeated quest to find the truth to the rumors.

There was a story in the news less than a year ago about a St.

Tammany or Washington Parish Justice O' Peace refusing to marry an interracial couple.

They eventually had his job for it, but his excuse was the unfair stigma that would be visited on the innocent child, shunned by both races. They reacted as you would expect, outraged, but the man was speaking the truth right to their faces and they wouldn't listen. I know that 98% of the mixed race individuals that might be here would disagree, and furthermore, they would be right that it is none of my business.

I worked my a&& off at university (started at Loyola, BTW) with the intent to always be a joint contributor.