"We are not aiming for great changes in the second half of life, but looking for fulfillment in who we are now," says Sharon Romm, a Seattle-based psychiatrist and author of "Dating After 50: Negotiating the Minefields of Midlife Romance." "Not everyone wants another marriage.Someone might want a companion for going to concerts on Saturday night and not much more. "Many over 50 are no longer looking for that one person, that 'soul mate'," says Dr."It is time that our society's traditional thinking that disconnects old age and sex be revisited," says Ruth S.

We weren’t talking about sex with words, but our body language was telling another story. If I had to ask myself, she wasn’t the woman I would put as “next.” I didn’t think about what a relationship with her would be like. My libido was doing most of my thinking and pushing my maps to the bottom of the drawer. I didn’t even hear the text an hour later from her that asked what I might have in mind for later. The idea of sex was making its way through my bloodstream.♦◊♦We watched an episode over a first glass or rosé.

It turned out that the only detail she’d falsified in her dating profile was her age. And of course, the tequila was charting a course as well. And I’m a red man, so I was a tiny bit disoriented. She laughed and said, “It’s all good.” Green lights all across my internal instrument panel.

It wasn’t that we were immediately talking about sleeping together—we weren’t.

But the talk of sex did come up, much to my surprise, fairly early and in a playful and easy way.♦◊♦“How old do you think I am,” she asked.“I’m not falling for that trap,” I laughed.

• Although HIV/AIDS is a threat to Americans of all ages, about 19 percent of Americans infected with HIV/AIDS are 50 or older, according to the U. They are also less likely to be tested for the disease. Both men and women may find that it takes longer to become aroused as they grow older, according to the National Institutes of Health (NIH).

This may be caused by health problems like heart disease, by medications being taken to treat health conditions, or simply by stress or concerns about a changing appearance as one ages.

Indeed, 49 percent said they were simply looking for someone "to talk to and do things with." Of course, dating isn't always easy, particularly for those who may be dipping back into the dating pool after years on the sidelines. adults aged 57 to 85 surveyed for a study published in the New England Journal of Medicine (NEJM) reported having sex at least once within the past year: Among the oldest group of sexually active adults, 54 percent were having sex at least twice a month, while 23 percent reported engaging in sex at least once a week.

But there are many ways for older Americans to meet and get to know one another, many geared specifically to their cohort: • Online dating and social networking sites, like , offer tuition waivers or discounted classes for seniors. Just as older Americans aren't letting the years stop them from dating, they're not letting it end their sex lives, either. The study published August 23 defines sex very loosely to include mutual activity that doesn't require intercourse.

___Okay, so let’s put EVERY SINGLE POST before this one on hold for a second.

Let’s suspend our previously assumed beliefs, desires, and road maps.

Others might absolutely want -- or not want -- sex as part of another relationship." Dating dynamics More than a third of Americans over 50 are divorced, widowed, separated or have never married, according to a tally of statistics released in 2006 by the U. Philip Belove, a marriage and family therapist based in Bellows Falls, Vermont, who specializes in midlife relationships issues.