Not surprisingly, when Cindy asked Rob if it was OK to engage in pornography, his theology changed.

"Pornography isn't okay because it's damaging to the people who are doing it, and it's not very Christian." Why does Rob have a schizophrenic view of purity and of the Bible's commandments?

True intimacy springs from verbal and emotional communion.

A prostitute may expose her body, but her relationships are hardly intimate." cited a study of 100,000 women that linked "early sexual experience with dissatisfaction in their present marriages, unhappiness with the level of sexual intimacy and the prevalence of low self-esteem." So what does this mean?

If Rob tries to convince Cindy, or any woman, that sex will actually help their relationship, she might want to think again before consenting.

Alice Fryling, in an article titled, "Why Wait for Sex?

" writes: "Genital sex is an expression of intimacy, not the means to intimacy.

For example, the man who hasn't ever seen or driven more than one car doesn't know what other cars are like; therefore he would be satisfied with his automobile.

Partners can also feel threatened if they think their mate could be comparing them with previous partners.

When Cindy met Rob, she knew that even though he attended church, he didn't share her convictions about premarital sex.

Rob thought it was OK—and even good for dating couples to engage in—and Cindy believed it was wrong from a Christian perspective.

Note: This includes all sin, and does not exclude sexual sin.

Psalm 103: 12 also promises, "As far as the east is from the west, so far has He removed our transgressions [sins] from us." In addition to forgiveness, God wants you to embrace His grace that will help you move forward in life and embrace the promises He has for you with joy.

Thankfully, He doesn't withhold forgiveness or grace from those who ask for it.